I’ve been thinking a lot about death lately. First, someone close to me just died. Second, I just went to my friend’s father’s wake. And third, today (September 9) would have been my 25th wedding anniversary. I’m not telling you that to garner sympathy, although I appreciate it if you feel any. Rather, all these thoughts about losing loved ones makes me think of how I want my … [Read more...] about The Sober Widow: Write your own story
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From The Deep End: Maters and mishaps
“There are no gardening mistakes, only experiments.” — Janet Kilburn Phillips Every few years, I get some plants and muck about with dirt and seeds. Gardening is not my strong suit; I should probably be placed on a “No Plant” list and declared a danger to the average backyard. The problem is that I am always looking for shortcuts. Playing the long game isn’t something I excel … [Read more...] about From The Deep End: Maters and mishaps
The Sober Widow: Procrastination
As I’ve shared, I recently took Introduction to Psychology at a local university because I never took it in college, and I’d been very curious about it. One of the components is about procrastination, which took me way back. At one time in my life, I was practically a professional procrastinator, especially in school. Studying for an exam, writing a paper, starting a project? … [Read more...] about The Sober Widow: Procrastination
From The Deep End: Hitting the deck
"It's not the falling down that counts, it's the getting up." — Mary Pickford Anyone who has known me for more than ten minutes or read more than a few pieces of my work knows that falling down is almost a way of life for me. Between a balance disorder and the attention span of a gnat on Red Bull, bumping into large objects and tripping over nothing is a near-daily … [Read more...] about From The Deep End: Hitting the deck
The Sober Widow: The power of friendship
They say that friends are the family you choose, and I believe that’s true. Even if you have a wonderful family (which I do), you still get to choose who you surround yourself with outside the family compound. I’ve always heard that friendship is 50/50. But in my experience, it’s never that, it’s more like 60/40, 80/20 or even 90/10. One friend will always need the other one … [Read more...] about The Sober Widow: The power of friendship